Thursday, April 21, 2011 |

10 Ways to Guarantee Frustration with Your Horse

The only horseperson who never has been frustrated with his horse has owned only Breyers. Put any two living creatures together and you’re bound to get conflict. Here are 10 sure-fire ways to clash with your horse.

1. Be in a hurry

If you’re under a time crunch, your intent and energy will escalate in a stressed (not playful) way. The horse will hate this conflict and resist.

2. Have people watching
Being self-conscious causes you to lose spontaneity and get “out of the moment.” If you’re not present, your horse won’t be.

3. Don’t know what to do
If you’re confused about a new technique or your horse does something unexpected, you’ll find it’s like trying to teach rocket science in a foreign language.

4. Expect perfection
Wanting perfection (and “close to perfection” is the same thing!) will never, ever happen, so will always, forever, create problems.

Sometimes it seems like even fake horses can cause frustration! (Image taken from

5. Have poor goals
If you don’t know where you’re going or your destination is an unreasonable place or impossible to get to, the path there will be pretty darn frustrating.

6. Don’t be willing to compromise
The key to creating conflict in any relationship (horse-human included) is to never give in and never pick your battles.

7. Stick too closely to one system
If you can’t do something because the Guru Training System of Amazingness doesn’t allow it, you’re going to have a nasty conflict of loyalties.

8. Have the wrong equipment
Yes, it’s possible to do what you are trying to do with different equipment. But sometimes, it’s just not worth it. Unless you want to be frustrated.

9. Do too much, too soon
What you want to do may be entirely possible, but may not be the best thing right now.

10. Forget the purpose of horsemanship
Horsemanship is about having a relationship—you don’t need to do anything. But definitely make Doing your priority for maximum frustration.

There is little that’s guaranteed in horsemanship, but if you want to come close, bet on these ways of creating conflict. They’ll work or your money back!